Attract success like a magnet
Attract success like a magnet
Some people always seem to land on their feet whatever
circumstances they find themselves in. Its as though they
have a magnetic qaulity which attracts success.
You may work hard and smart and feel frustrated by watching
these fortunate few coast to the achievement of their goals
with ease. So what do they have that you don't? They are
not necessarily more intelligent able or well qualified
than the vast majority who struggle.
All failure occurs due to two easily avoidable mistakes.
How do I know this? As a result of working with people like
yourself for over two decades in helping them to achieve
their goals. You'll probably agree that in all areas of
life there are rules. If you want to be a good cook,
driver, swimmer or golfer you'll need to follow certain
rules. Substitute any activity you like for the ones that I
have used in the above example and this remains the case.
Consciously or unconsciously the " success magnets " are
following two rules. These are you cannot achieve your
goals unless you have some and you must pursue your goals
effectively in order to achieve them. Although this could
seem obvious most people don't have a correct understanding
of how to set achievable goals. Most people also find
effectively persuing their goals for any length of time
difficult. It doesn't have to be that way when you know how
to go about it.
Ask most people about their goals and they'll say something
vague like " I would like to be happy" or "I want to be
rich". "Goals" which are expressed vaguely are simply not
achievable. The person who wants to be happy must first
define what happiness means to him or her.What might make
one person happy could be stressful or boring to another.
Just knowing that you would like a Rolls Royce or a holiday
home in Spain is not enough though. You need to have a
totally clear mental picture of the things, people and
situations that you want to bring into your life.
Many years ago I read a book on success written by a
self-made millionaire, I've never forgotten his words on
this subject. They were to the effect that you should be
able to describe so accurately what you want from life that
it could be delivered to you by the relevant vendor based
purely on your description of it.
Most people's pictures of their desires are vague and
nebulous to put it mildly. Some people even waste time and
mental energy thinking of things that they don't won't.
That creates a whole set of problems that I don't have time
to go into here.
An unclear goal would be "I want a family". "I want a
partner,two children and a German Shepherd dog" would be a
clear goal. Or an unclear goal would be " I want a good
job". A clear goal would be "I want to work for an
International company. To earn £50,000 per annum and
travel throughout Europe using my creative skills and my
ability to speak foreign languages".
Having successfully formulated your goal you will now need
to persue it. The problem here is that whilst most people
start off enthusiastically this soon wanes. I have often
heard it expressed as "life gets in the way".
There is a quick and simple way of staying on track to your
goals when you are tempted to drift away from them. Write
down on a piece of paper all that acheiving your goal will
mean to you. For example the person with the career goal
won't just gain his/her ideal career but a chance to
travel, to meet new friends, to have interesting
experiences. Their life would be transformed by succeeding
in this goal. Now think of the effort required to put
together a C.V., contact recruitment consultants by
telephone or email. What's that compared to what this
person stands to gain.
You can do this with any goal. Then act; break down actions
into small bite sized steps so that you never feel
overwhelmed by them. Keep these two rules and you will find
circumstances opening up in your life, which will allow you
to achieve goals, which once seemed impossible. Finally
mentally picture on a regular basis your goals as already
achieved and you will turbo-charge your progress towards
them.
About the Author:
Want help in achieving your goals? Eileen is a
psychologist/ therapist who has been helping people like you
to achieve their goals for the past twenty years. You can
email her at
eileen@eileenedward s.co.uk to find out how she can help in
the achievement of your goals. Eileen also has a website
http://www.eileened wards.co. uk This site deals purely with
relationships.
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